only you know where your heart lies

It is no small feat, to feel passion;
The unstoppable current that overflows all reason.
That in fact, overflows all that is NOT meant for you.

This power was given to you, and not to ignore it.
But to let it lead the way.

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Valentine’s Day is a good one, isn’t it?
To share with you the power, not of undying love but of temporary passion that does not possess the unconditional characteristics as Love capital L does.
Or unconditional characteristics it should have, anyway.

Because Love should never be conditional.
With my recent breakup from my Lover (not partner!), at first I saw the fact that I still love him, and feel myself attached and bound to him -in the most visceral way- as a hindrance.
Something childish even, and definitely not a good strategy to make sure my post-50 life will have the same sexual zest, as it has had for as long as I can remember.

Judging from what I see around me, the second half seems to be dominated by stories of settling, tales of lack, and lessons of first making dating and finding a new partner the center of your very Universe and agenda, before maybe, you find someone to have a relationship with.

All things I refuse to settle for as being my story.

I’ve always had a strong sexual identity, and from when I was about 13 years old, I have fallen in love with boys and movie stars, rock stars and one tv personality.
My “practice” was being a romantic, much more than it was being sexually active.

Now that I am over 50, and I have to re-establish my sex life, still being attached to my former lover, AND ALSO refusing to settle, and refusing to invest time and money in dating, this feels like the most risky, borderline stupid thing to do at this point.

Romantic love, regardless of your age, does not fall out of the sky.
And if you’re aiming at pure passion, bypassing more subdued relationship forms, then staying emotionally attached to the lover you had, is not wise.

And yet?
Yes it is.
It is, if at the same time I can accept and even celebrate that he has moved on, and is creating his dreamlife.
Even if it is without me.

So there you have the two forces that are given to you.
TWO forces we more often than not dismiss, ignore, or talk ourselves out of:

1.the force of unconditional love

The Love, capital L, that you can still feel for someone even when they don’t “choose” you. That you can bask in the feeling of being happy for them, without needing anything back.

Never, ever, ignore a love that you can experience in this way.
And alternatively:
Never invest in any love, that requires you to get something out of it.
The only love that exists is unconditional Love. Capital L.

2.the force of passion

I define passion as a deep desire to be with someone or something, as well. For example I have a passion for Bon Jovi, so I want to listen to their concert bootlegs and write about them.
Which is also linked to my relationship with other people who like Bon Jovi. Internet allows me to share my love for Bon Jovi, which is how it multiplies.

But passion of course also refers to a physical, sexual longing. 
This too, in my opinion, was not given to you to ignore.

It’s not meant to be ignored when TWO people, feel this sexual longing for each other at exactly the same time!
I know I am ignoring an array of social taboos and financial and other pragmatic co-dependencies here–
but within the endless conversations about painful sexual experiences, non-consensual sex, and about unwanted celibacy and the tragedy of so many people not being able to enjoy sexually satisfying lives;
How can two people being head over heels in love and wanting to jump onto each other possibly be a bad thing?

How can we ever hope to say No to unhealthy relationships, to things that suck our soul out of us;
“No”, to situations that kill our personal growth and mutilate our identity;
When we do not know what Yes, means?

Never ignore things, interests, or people, that you feel passionate about.
Always respect the Yes of your heart!
As well as the Yes from the powers a bit further South.

Regardless of how much gets stirred up;
Never ignore things, interests, or people, you can give your unconditional Love to, or that you feel passionate about.

Happy Valentine’s Day, Rock Star.

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~Suzanne

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It is possible the above story has already given you an outline of what you want to discuss.

If you think you would benefit from a broader approach, my suggestion will be to sort your story into:

1. the earthly plane
Your possessions, worldly matters, income streams, worries and responsibilities you fear you can’t meet.
A helpful term could be how do things look from the perspective of financial freedom, or worldly freedom.

2. your purpose
What is the work you love doing, what are the moments big or small, that you know you are aligned. Has God told you, what you’re here for?
This is about creative freedom, or even karmic freedom.
Are you free to do the work, that is yours?

3. your Rock Star expansion
What is the fullest expression you are here to bring?
And what are the areas you’re playing small, as if cut off from your powers?
We investigate if in those areas, the rules you play by are yours, or society’s.
“3” is related to sexual freedom.
Like anything, it is up to you if that is part of our conversation or not.

Because all three points are just a suggestion, they offer a good framework providing one hour for every topic, to go deeper looking for answers.
But the setlist is not fixed.

I have merely built the stage for us, and we have three hours.

It is up for you to take it.

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