A long, long time ago, I regularly went out with new men.
Sometimes we’d been connected on social media for a couple of months, or we’d met on a dating site.
On the odd occasion it was someone I’d met in real life.
In this era, I was focused on platonic dating.
I wasn’t in love with them, and maybe because of that, I did not view myself as having high, or too high, expectations.
A glass of wine and an interesting conversation was all I asked for.
I knew they were able to tweet 140 characters without making a fool of themselves;
Sent private messages without including inappropriate photos;
And if I had met them in real life, I understood what they were about and knew there was potential there.
What could possibly go wrong?
Well, fortunately nothing went wrong in terms of risks.
Nothing bad happened.
However, I had been setting myself up for disappointment in a way that had never happened when I still regularly had lovers.
Because I had managed to overlook one major flaw in my strategy;
The men were still looking for more.
The platonic disclaimers I always gave around the time we were setting up a date, never made any difference.
The date itself was always fun yet, without exception, they always ended with me having to repeat the exact same message I had already said before we had gone on the date.
That I was not interested that way.
In the end I got so fed up with it, I stopped assessing IF a man was expecting more, and always closed a date repeating my no-interest-for-more disclaimer.
On two occasions, my first-date had let me talk, grinning a bit. Unmoved, they answered something along the lines of:
“Your loss.”
I remember them both, they were right.
I lost.
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~Suzanne Beenackers
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