you will crave a different coach

Not just because you are self-reliant;
Not just because you are consumed by inspiration, haunted by unnamed forces of creative power.

But because you know your presence alone, every word you move, and every gesture you speak;
Is a gift given.

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George Michael once said of sex workers:
“You don’t pay them for sex, you pay them to leave.”
And I imagine he meant that when you have sex with a lover, partner or hook-up, you owe them extra time and courtesy, at a moment when you are ready to wrap up.
You can even be expected to deliver after-care in the form of a text or call, and there’s always a risk of it getting ugly if they wanted more.

When what a professional provides is a pleasant, drama-free goodbye.

Aside from the emotional hygiene, there are more characteristics of sex work, which make for excellent business practices.
But also excellent client practices, or just really “excellent practices”! .
There is no reason why we should limit this skill set to business.

Pleasant practices we should all strive for:
-introducing yourself
-explaining what you are looking for or what appealed to you in the other person or their offer
-asking for a call or date, and waiting for the other to accept. Or to not accept.
-one-off appointments, at a moment or time both parties feel good about
-both parties being courteous and respectful
-actively seeing the good in each other
-asking for consent for every act or move that even remotely qualifies for it!
Every “Yes” or “That would be great.” or “Would you do that for me?!” making both of you feel great. The one who offers, as well as the one who loves to accept.
-drama free goodbyes, without expecting a follow up (courtesy of George Michael)

Now, on the other hand, in the coaching industry, not counting online home-study programs because they do not involve connection and interaction-
but focusing on the rest of the coaching industry, then we’d have to turn every stone to find:
– 1 time, singular, coaching.
It is sometimes offered as a VIP day, private intensive or private workshop. But they are incredibly rare!
And we see 99% coaching run on:
-group programs, including master minds
-1-on-1 coaching programs that include an online training (live or pre-recorded) to support your work together
or
-coaching that covers a certain time period,
*f.e. a year of one-on-one coaching, very often with unlimited (email/ Voxer) messaging, so you’re paying to be in continuous conversation.
*multiple session package.
*or a combination where you pay for a certain time-period but know in advance how often you will speak. F.e. a six week package with a weekly coaching call.

Now don’t get me wrong!
These are all FABULOUS WAYS TO TAKE COACHING!!!!!

But, you guessed it;
Not for Rock Stars.

Nor are they a good fit for anyone with the genetic makeup of a Rock Star.
Which you’ll know soon enough if that’s you, just read on.

Because let’s imagine the late Rock Star George Michael had wanted coaching.
What could have been his issues with these dominant coaching structures?

Well, being George Michael, he knows his presence is worth something. In fact it is worth everything.

He risked that the coach could be using his name, in their marketing or just name dropping it in casual conversation with new buyers;
And he also knew that if he showed up in a Mastermind or a group program, the money should have been given to him.
Not by him.
He would know not to pay to get in;
But to be paid to be there!

And the same goes for studying other people’s material;
Rock Stars have people studying their material!
Always remember you are a creator, not a consumer.

What will also not go well is when a coach asks questions f.e. based on a structure, but it can also be the way they do social interaction in general.

First of all it should come as no surprise that anyone who classifies as a Rock Star would hate being asked questions!
Probably reminds them of journalists! 😉

But there is also a more general principle, why certain people (Rock Stars) will hate being asked questions;

Questions, are overpowering the other person.

But a conversation, is a sign of equality.

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The police asks questions. Your parents asked questions. In a job interview you’re being asked questions.
Nothing says I am the boss, like asking questions.

And if you’re a Rock Star and have a hard time finding professionals, I bet it’s because they are asking questions.

What you’re looking for is someone to have a conversation with, but this means a professional needs to be able to hold themselves at your level. 

The whole dynamic between the two of you, should be based on mutual respect, but also joy, lightheartedness, recognition, and awe.

What you are asking for Rock Star, is for someone who is complementary  in what they bring to the table;
Who is understanding of their own worth, but who is also very aware of yours.

And that you are giving in spades by showing up for your session.

That your presence is your gift.

They are not paid to spend time with you;
But to keep things profesh, and to wrap up lightly!

Leaving it entirely up to you, if there will be another time.

~Suzanne
Rock Star Writer

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We move.

It is possible the above story has already given you an outline of what you want to discuss.

If you think you would benefit from a broader approach, my suggestion will be to sort your story into:

1. the earthly plane
Your possessions, worldly matters, income streams, worries and responsibilities you fear you can’t meet.
A helpful term could be how do things look from the perspective of financial freedom, or worldly freedom.

2. your purpose
What is the work you love doing, what are the moments big or small, that you know you are aligned. Has God told you, what you’re here for?
This is about creative freedom, or even karmic freedom.
Are you free to do the work, that is yours?

3. your Rock Star expansion
What is the fullest expression you are here to bring?
And what are the areas you’re playing small, as if cut off from your powers?
We investigate if in those areas, the rules you play by are yours, or society’s.
“3” is related to sexual freedom.
Like anything, it is up to you if that is part of our conversation or not.

Because all three points are just a suggestion, they offer a good framework providing one hour for every topic, to go deeper looking for answers.
But the setlist is not fixed.

I have merely built the stage for us, and we have three hours.

It is up for you to take it.

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