look for the symbolism

The things you know you’ll one day be thinking, doing, owning;
The way you’ll be behaving and believing;
They’re more than a random collection.

But the blueprint of the person wanting to come out.

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Every couple of weeks, and this can stretch up to two, three months, I don’t know I have never counted it, but quit frequently and consistently, there is a build-up in my house of overdue household work.
And I even came up with a classification system, a boundary which when crossed, describes that I really let livability fall by the wayside here.

It is the boundary when a living space becomes a saloon or a stall, because there is so much dirt that I brought inside the home, returning from my daily walks and from feeding the hedgehogs.
Any requests to drop by my house within hours, will be met with a firm No!
For multiple reasons, but it’s also because I know my house does not have the basics in place to welcome people in.
That I m at That Stage, again.

Naturally if I then finally clean up, usually because I have a guest coming over, I love it with all my heart and swear on all things holy I will keep it this way, from now on.
That I m never letting go of this Sanctuary Feel that my house now gives me!

Until I do of course.
And usually sooner rather than later.

It’s easier for me to commit to daily blogging, daily yoga, daily walks, and I have been consistent with the hedgehogs for years but a daily cleanup in order to keep the house livable?
Obviously my Achilles Heel.

Which wouldn’t be such a big deal, if the symbolism behind it wouldn’t be so disturbing.
Because it conveys lack of ownership.

I think what we are all secretly striving for, even from a consumer standpoint – and this is the exact reason why mindless consumption is so unsatisfactory-
What we crave for, what fills us up, and empowers us is;
Ownership.
But not ownership in the literal sense, as something that strictly speaking now falls under our jurisdiction.

If I buy a purse, I am now the owner of it.
But it will not be satisfying, unless I start cultivating an active relationship to the purse.

The reason my poor housekeeping skills are a problem is because they reveal that I am not actively engaging with my surroundings.
And the house-stall-crossover that is my hallway, is a symbol of that.

And trust me when I say that unfortunately the hallway is not the only, nor the most severe area of my life, where this problem exists!
There are multiple ones.

Multiple areas that symbolize a lack of ownership.
Not the literal, but the metaphorical ownership.
I’m not showing up, I’m not in an active relationship to them.

Beware also, if you ARE in an active relationship – but it is one of problems and complications!
No good can come from that either.
Find your peace within yourself, let go of ego, panic, anxiety and so on.
Cultivate a healthy relationship to the area within yourself, first. Don’t try “fixing” this highly volatile situation.
Practice equanimity first.

So there is more to say about this, more flavors than withdrawing, not showing up. But because not-showing-up is my coping style, and not conflict, I am more knowledgeable in that area.
Which is why it is dominant in this post.

But there is also good news.
Because I really believe that when we think about what we’d like in life, we’re making things way too complicated.
In the sense that we’re aiming for new things which require more time, more money (a bigger house, a new bag) or that are even beyond our direct circle of influence (more friends, a new partner, different colleagues).
The good news is it’s not about adding the new.

What we crave is to have a deeper, more fulfilling relationship with the bag we already own, with the house where we currently live, with the people in our lives already.

The areas in your life you do not feel good about, symbolize something, yes….  For example my dirty hall symbolizes an inability to take care of my home as a whole.
But their current state, also symbolizes something!
Chaos, lack or conflict.
Or in my case;
Neglect.

Instead of focusing on the tasks to clean the area up, or redesign it, ask yourself:

How can I make this area a symbol of * enter whatever it is you want * 

Peace.
Love.
Success.
Adventure.
Comfort.
Health.

Take a deep breath. See it for what it is, don’t move habitually, or emotionally. Take it in.

What does an area need, to be a symbol of your competence?

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What is the work you love doing, what are the moments big or small, that you know you are aligned. Has God told you, what you’re here for?
This is about creative freedom, or even karmic freedom.
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