men and women are (on) different (budgets)

Men need to budget their commitments, and minimize them to only those serving their goals and reflecting their values.

Women need to budget flexibility and uncertainty;
And prioritize finding an exit strategy to the situations that leave them no choice.

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It has been the elephant in the room, or in our case on stage, because Yes;
The concept of striving for Rock Star success is a male one.

Now – perhaps “unfortunately” I might say, but more about that later – this does not mean that women should rule out becoming a Rock Star, deliberately aiming to stand out in their industry, so that they can charge not just the highest rates, but are invited to tables no peer ever got invited to.
Even though the others would show up there for free.

Never ever forget that since ancient Greek times, the labor of women and slaves was not included in the economic system.
Work that to this day is still invisible, underpaid and the actual elephant in the room of our economic system.
And a way bigger elephant than our question;
“Do women make good Rock Stars?”

For over two-thousand years the economic system has been built directly upon the qualities of men.
Much like all medicine that is still tested only to men, this is means that as a woman you need to be mindful.
You can’t trust medicine nor career choices, to be a good one, just because it gave good results for men.

I am definitely not the right yoga teacher to talk about the physiology of this, many of my colleagues are, but the bottom line is women’s nervous systems pay an incredibly high price, when it is exposed to stress.

Yes, even for them:
The warrior, fighter, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, is true!
As far as I can tell.
But in all probability, you’re paying a way higher price than any man would.

Worst case scenario, the way I see it- although that is perhaps too grim!- is that where stress and challenge and even war, could rise a man into the highest version of himself;
For women the effect is what in Lord of the Rings was done to elves, who were tortured until their entire species was turned into trolls.

To avoid this, take a look at the Elven Queen Galadriel:
She lives in the heavily guarded woods of Lothlórien.
No one enters, without her permission.

She can focus on the endgame of defeating Sauron, by blocking out all other distractions, by design.

On the other hand, the men of the story, the fellowship of the nine, are all focused on the same goal, but they are doing their work on the road, location free.
The only one who continuously thinks about how he can fight this war from home and keep his people safe, is Boromir of Gondor, who makes the wrong decision of trying to take the ring from Frodo, in order to use it from within the walls of the city.

The other eight men accept the hardship of their path, without home or proper shelter, and all grow more powerful and wise, enduring and conquering all peril that awaits them.

I made the choice at the time to let Catacombe be about awakening your Rock Star powers, and yes, I chose to almost exclusively target the male path here.
The one taking on the madness and the mayhem and the pressure, and galvanizing it into your biggest dreams.

This is because of that 2000 year old structure of favoring this approach. It doesn’t change the system itself, it works it. Teaches you how to play it, even.

But within that “game”, men and women, and feel free to be more gender neutral here and use which one of those roles resonate with you-
but we have different decisions to make.
We pay a different price;
For women in this system our actions have different consequences for our nervous systems.
We should be more risk-averse than men, and guard the boundaries of our kingdom like hawks, because we pay a way higher price enduring stress.
Worst case scenario it turns us into orcs, with all that made us human now lost.

The Elves are always on the brink of “leaving these shores” as they put it, referring to their people, all of them, leaving for the Undying Lands.
It is not a matter of if they leave, but when.
Middle-Earth is not made for them, anymore than our world of men is made for us.

The men in Lord of the Rings illustrate that they need to guard their commitments carefully.
Even their loyalty to the Fellowship, ultimately proves to be untenable. There can be only one loyalty, one priority, and these all proved to be highly personal.
Only Frodo’s priority was to get the ring into the fires of Mount Doom.
His friend Sam’s was simply to be at Frodo’s side. 
Aragorn’s priority was to do what was necessary to protect his people, mankind.

All men had only one commitment, and that is what gave them the strength to face all hardship along their path.

So may you find yours, Rock Star of the Earth.

All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.
Gandalf

 

~Suzanne

A hunted man sometimes wearies of distrust and longs for friendship.
Aragorn.

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THE ROCK STAR, is Catacombe’s signature 3 hour session, for those who know they have a calling;
But…. are a bit daunted by it.

“So do all who live to see such times.”
Gandalf

THE ROCK STAR is a one-time investment, and our conversation is confidential.

To book, email me at:
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Once we know we are a good fit, my price is accepted by you and you choose to make a booking;
We move.

It is possible the above story has already given you an outline of what you want to discuss.

If you think you would benefit from a broader approach, my suggestion will be to sort your story into:

1. the earthly plane
Your possessions, worldly matters, income streams, worries and responsibilities you fear you can’t meet.
A helpful term could be how do things look from the perspective of financial freedom, or worldly freedom.

2. your purpose
What is the work you love doing, what are the moments big or small, that you know you are aligned. Has God told you, what you’re here for?
This is about creative freedom, or even karmic freedom.
Are you free to do the work, that is yours?

3. your Rock Star expansion
What is the fullest expression you are here to bring?
And what are the areas you’re playing small, as if cut off from your powers?
We investigate if in those areas, the rules you play by are yours, or society’s.
“3” is related to sexual freedom.
Like anything, it is up to you if that is part of our conversation or not.

Because all three points are just a suggestion, they offer a good framework providing one hour for every topic, to go deeper looking for answers.
But the setlist is not fixed.

I have merely built the stage for us, and we have three hours.

It is up for you to take it.

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