be in the connection

It’s not the hardest thing, it’s the easiest
But you will find very few are actually showing up for it.

It’s not you;
Just proof the other was never there to begin with
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There’s one interaction I still struggle with to label, which is unfortunate because if I had figured this out, I could tie a bow around this theory and present it to you all done.
Which will now not be the case.

The theory is still in draft, incomplete, it has a hole.
And yet, this does give me the opportunity to prove this “connection theory” in a different way;
By applying it.

So the theory is this:
That the problem is never the problem,
The problem is always, and without exception, that the issue at hand is not allowed to be discussed.

Or said in a different way:
There is only one problem, and that is things not being open for discussion.
Things and people resisting you actually connecting with them.

Applied to me not having figured out one specific dynamic, this translates to:
It only becomes a problem, if I avoid being in connection with this.

So, what is this dynamic I’m unsure of?
It’s people being angry or fighting, in particular when it is targeted at me personally, because those are the situations I have the most information about.
But it also confuses me when I have nothing to do with it.

I can’t shake the feeling that negativity and aggression cause permanent damage.
And yet!
Wow, are those angry people making connection!
With the subject they’re angry about, with the person they’re angry with.
You can’t accuse them of not really showing up, for sure.
They are cracking open something that we can now rebuild.
Yay for the angry people!

So I think my theory, for now, is this:
The problem is always people not showing up for the connection.

But the connection, is not always pleasant.

~Suzanne Beenackers
Catacombe
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After a long period of silence, where I was definitely not in connection, my Rock Star work is back!
Raw, unfiltered, and hopefully better than before.
But let’s keep it at “back”, for now.

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In May 2026 I wrapped up this website and The New Rock Star YouTube channel, but a Rock Star brought me back!
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