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you decide the rules

Just because everybody’s afraid of the darkness of the sea;

The razor sharp ridges
Unexplored trenches and underwater caves

Doesn’t mean that includes you.

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I’m on the cusp of two incredibly big changes in my life.
One professional, one private.
And in areas that have been challenging for me in the past.

They used to come with a whole bag of unsorted emotions, but the general label was that the professional bag carried more anger and frustration, and the private one loss and sadness, but also love.

This particular professional bag was one of the oldest ones I had.
I had never chosen it, or I had but in a “this one is the lesser of all evils” kind of way.
The bag came with the promise that I didn’t need to choose yet.

Whereas the private bag was one I had chosen very deliberately, and much more recent than the professional one.
I had made great sacrifices for her, as it came at great cost.
You could say I still I am still living the consequences of insisting this luxury bag to be mine.
Would not trade it for the world though.

And now both bags have been cleaned out, figuratively speaking
– although maybe it would be cool to select two bags from my collection to represent this new phase! –
and this summer they will step into this new life with me.

And in the words of Carrie Bradshaw, I couldn’t help but wonder:
Do they still carry that same baggage? The same emotions?
Somewhere deep inside the pockets.
Sewn in, between the seams.

But although only time will tell, I don’t think so.
Can’t find any residue, they appear to be clean.

And it mirrors the mental clarity I have now.
It was never about what anyone or anything tossed inside of them.
Not about unwanted baggage.

It’s about you treating them with dignity.
Knowing them inside and out.

And in return they’ll give you their power, their secrets and their darkest sorcery.

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Rock Star Take On COMEBACKS (because we’re back!) | The New Rock Star Channel (new video)

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Rock Star Take On BELONGING
| The New Rock Star Channel 

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The New Rock Star Channel is back!
Thank you for your patience.

This week, the ninth video.
A Rock Star Take On COMEBACKS

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Or watch the foundational video first, from 24th Oct 2024:
https://youtu.be/AQCIWDhaK4E
2 Rock Star Things That Took Me 25 Years To Find Out
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In this video;

1. We’re back! 00:00
With another episode of a Rock Star Take On.
Small recap about what happened that I had to pause.

2. There are some exciting new changes! 01:00

– AIMING for a 10 minute video
Sure taking it as a divine blessing and a sign that this one indeed turned out being exactly 10:00 after editing.

– NO PREPERATION or REFINEMENT
I’m only going to share what pops to mind immediately, off-the-cuff, no preparation.
In the age of AI, the biggest advantage real humans have is that they share embodied knowledge.
It’s not just information, it’s an energetic transmission.
The way to assure this embodied information, is not just to only share what you know and live by;
But also to not create abstractions, generalizations, or new models from it.
Just share it in the raw form.

3. Rock Star Take On COMEBACKS 03:47

4. it’s not a comeback 04:04
You were always ON A PATH.
It may not have been by choice, it could have been a questionable way to live your life; And it may have been far from ideal and not something you recommend or care to repeat but nevertheless;
A path is a path!

So a comeback means you’re coming back to (positive) visibility.
But you’ve never been away from your path.

5. up for consideration: THE REDEMPTION ARC 05:35
Do you feel like marking this new beginning, and the change in who you have become?
Then looking into your Redemption Arc, could be helpful.

What was your lowest point, or the moment you crossed over to the dark side? What was the moment you thought you would die.
Yet you made a different choice and saved yourself, or you were saved by higher powers.
That, is the story of your redemption.

The Redemption Arc, is how you can understand – and share if you wish – the story of your fall and your rise/ comeback, in a meaningful and memorable way.

6. the Star Wars Redemption Arc 06:33
Where to find an example of this concept of redemption arc.

7. Wrap up 09:24
These videos will be aimed at being 10 minutes –
But what I didn’t know when I was filming was that this first comeback video would indeed turn out to be exactly 10 minutes. It was definitely divine intervention.

Some comeback!

Next stop, Rock Star Take On?
How about “INTERVENTIONS”?!

It will go out on this blog.
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consciousness is king | What Do Rock Stars Need To Hear Today

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consciousness is king

The world has changed.
What was once true is no longer enough.
The war for our minds has intensified, and needs to be rebuilt from within.

Today.

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I make it into a game.
With stories about difficult situations which I hear or read
– and I’m the first to admit my own stories and difficult situations are the last to be subjected to this. In many ways I am a rookie! –
I try to identify what the underlying cause was that lead to this.

Not to see if it could have been prevented, or whose fault it is. It is not that personal, and it has nothing to do with the human or emotional side, which is a parallel story in my mind. 

No, what I mean is that at some point, and this can be days after I have heard it, I will scan the situation from a bird’s eye perspective.
What was the underlying conflict of interest?
Who was in power?
Were they held accountable for their actions?

And what it comes down to is that there is always a lack of information.
Rarely can things be explained in a straightforward way. The motivations can only be attributed indirectly, by tracking their actions back.

So you know someone is “pushing” for a certain outcome, and pushing can mean neglect and not doing anything and waiting for it to fall apart.
But it usually stays a mystery why this is the outcome that person or party wants. 
We don’t know.
And more often than not, I have concluded that in all likeliness this person or party does not know themselves either.

So the non-dominant party does not only face the problem of being overpowered, but by a party who is acting from instinct, like a wounded animal.

We used to have a prime minister in the Netherlands, who in one of his more honest moments confessed that no one was going to give an explanation about a certain situation.

Well, newsflash!
No one ever is.

The only chance any of us ever have, is not by understanding the darkness of our enemy;
But by becoming the light, within.

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No fear of flying | Share Your Work 2025 06 30

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I didn’t go to Brad Pitt’s new movie F1 with the idea I was going to be transformed.
And maybe I wasn’t, but that it was something far more existential;
That I finally understood who I was.
And what my life was about.

Because when Brad Pitt’s character explains why he still drives, even though his F1 career stranded at an early stage – and it all went downhill from there – he knows crystal clear what he hopes to find every time he steps into a vehicle:
The feeling of flying.

As long as he has the occasional car to race, it does not matter that he is alone, has no job or financial security that we know of (he’s a hustler accepting only one-off deals) and is living from his van, which carries everything he owns in this world.
This man is on a chase for a feeling few of us will ever know, let alone comprehend.
And yet?
It was the first time I realized what I chase when I write.
And why I keep coming back to it, unswayed and relentless, and at any cost.

The feeling of flying.

I finally understand why I do not chase fame with my writing, under any of my accounts, any more than Brad Pitt’s character Sonny Hayes chases fame.
But that this does not mean that our passion is less fervent, or that our ambition has gotten soft around the edges.
Thanks to the movie F1, I now understand how much I want “it”!

Even when “it” does not come with anything impressive, but I now know:
– I live to write (like he lives to drive)
– I will do it to my dying day
– I will choose it even if it comes with extreme consequences

So now for the first time in my life, I have started rising early to write before breakfast.

When Sonny is told how dangerous it is to get back into the car again and race, he answers if he has to choose between life and driving, he will still choose driving a million times.
Driving is what he lives for.

None of us know how our story will end.

But some of us?
Are pushing mid-flight.


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what you carry is sacred | What Do Rock Stars Need To Hear Today

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what you carry is sacred

The world no one sees, the history no one knows, the shapeshifting of identities like quicksilver.

Comforting emptiness where your truth once stood. A curious fox sniffing out the ruins.

A rustling sound;
Incoming ideas!

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Nine times out of ten, when I want to tell someone about all the exciting things that happened, I hold back and realize there’s nothing to tell.
Because nothing actually happened.
It was all internal, or what also happens frequently, it was incredibly small.

Like I already rescued three bumblebees this year, with a nectar filled keychain I got for my birthday (beevive).
I stick a little twig in the bottle, then hold it in front of the disoriented bumblebee running around on the bike lane.
And then as they start licking it off as if their life depends on it (and it probably does) I get them to climb the twig and transport them, twig and all, to a green spot in the shade.

Even if Axl Rose from Guns N’ Roses then ran into us, blocking the lane, that day would still be more emotionally charged because of the bumblebee.
But Axl Rose would make the better story.

Recently someone asked how my life was now that I had less time for my writing.
I said it was completely doable, but being productive does knock all the creativity out of you.

Which wasn’t totally true, it was more like a worst-case scenario.
IF, I would still invest in Instagram worthy activities that actually “are something” and are cool to tell people about?
THEN my creativity would have died.

But I no longer do that.
Yet I look forward to the weekend!
It means I get to spend copious amounts of time in my inner-world.

Your gift, your creativity, your art, is the tangible, visible thing you create. Yes! 
But your real creative work, is so much vaster;
It is ALL, of what you carry inside of you.

And just showing up there and engaging, alone or with a friend or friends who share it;
That, is your work.

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the foundation to whatever is you | What Do Rock Stars Need To Hear Today

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the foundation to whatever is you

There isn’t anything you need to learn, acquire, get into your life, stumble upon or get past, in order to reach your goal.

You need to embody it.
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I took a look if I could find a quote, I think it is from Zig Ziglar – someone I do not know anything about other than that I frequently run into their (20th century?) legacy in the form of quotes.

I remember one of the quotes being about 3 areas of life:
To be.
To have.
And to do.
But instead of Zig Ziglar the Google search brought me to an incredibly complicated (to the point of frightening) concept of:
“Auxiliary verbs”
Verbs which apparently were be, do and have.

It reminded me of why English class always made me feel my English was somewhere between poor and rudimentary.
I can only imagine how the kids who had not grown up bilingual must have felt.

However, this does unexpectedly prove my exact point in the matter!
Because auxiliary verbs?
They don’t actually do anything.

I do remember when to use have, and I HAVE USED it daily.
Or is it AM USING it daily?
Either way it’s not the simple past tense of “I used it daily”
because then it means I no longer use it.

What I also do every day is find errors like this in my writing.
In particular on Substack, where the whole post is sent out to readers.
Not just a link.
Whereas my regular blogs and posts on Instagram are very forgiving, because I can still adjust the text and the post-with-errors is not still visible in people’s Inbox.

However!
Does it matter?

Is the quality of my writing defined by my ability to correct every auxiliary verb before I post?
No.

It’s in the person I am, the ideas I have, and in the relentless drive that pushes me to my computer every day.

Just looked up Zig Ziglar.
The Be, Do, Have philosophy is indeed his core message.

You have to BE the right kind of person first.
Then DO the right things.
And then you will HAVE what you want.

BE. Do. Have.
And in that very specific order.

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I gave it all to her | Share Your Work 2025 06 16

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Bears🐻, Lions🦁, Foxes🦊 and Cheetahs🐆

When I heard about the CIA model of four different roles for high-performance teams, I already had the blueprint of having three separate identities.
And initially I thought they matched up really nicely to the CIA model.

I had a Bear personality for socially demanding situations.
My choice of words clearly revealing this was not a role I considered my core identity.

And my Fox personality was the one able to solve highly complex problems.
She was the one who would be able to see opportunities, understand power dynamics, and be able to bend situations in her advantage.
Life was a game to her.

And then there was a third personality, who was there simply because that was who I had been since the past decade or so.

I have long suspected this third version of me to have come into being around 2012, with the rise of business coaching for women, on the internet.
But in hindsight, I think “she” was older, and was conceived (or split off) the moment I had started writing, which was in the 2000s/zeros.

Problem was I am in a career switch and didn’t see where she’d fit in.
But then I found the four different roles from the CIA, and suddenly saw what had happened!
Because this third personality?
Cheetah!

I’m still not a hundred percent sure where she (my inner Cheetah) originated from;
The writing or the new wave of female entrepreneurs?
But what was clear, was that I had not experienced that type of energy prior to that.

And the moment I did, I was hooked.
It was irresistible to move at her speed!

And now I finally knew who she was!
Or what: A Cheetah.

And I made a radical and of course very fast choice 😁
I gave it ALL to her.

All the work hours, I will ever have, and for the rest of my entire life;
HERS.

No more analysis.
No more contemplation.
No more strategies that take months or years to unfold.

She has 90 minutes.
But if there’s only 90s seconds?
She’ll take it.


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also, not your responsibility | What Do Rock Stars Need To Hear Today

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also, not your responsibility

Noah built the ark before the rain.
He was warned by God about the impending flood.

Imagine!
How many other emergencies and people he must have walled off to do so.

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I don’t consider myself a particularly good friend. Or, without sounding self-critizising because it is a conscious choice and not a personal flaw;
I know I’m not what most people look for in a friendship.
Let’s put it like that.

Because my friendship does not include in-between communication nor any emotional labor or support unless you are specifically asking for it.
But if you ask for it?
Then I clear my schedule and we’re actually going to SOLVE the problem.
Not the emotions or feelings, but we’re going to setup whatever is required for you to tackle this.

“But” to me friendship means you make an effort to show up in good spirits, to ask for consent if you have to or want to change plans or have a proposal.
Friendship is giving each other a lot of space, and to choose your topics of conversation with care.
Whether you’re laughing together or going for depth, it’s the quality that matters.

So obviously I gave this a lot of thought, and yes, it came with sacrifices but I didn’t realize until recently that it was not so much my friendship style where I was being perhaps overly picky and fussy;
It is everything.

That concentrating on the goals you want to achieve, or like I do in my case on creating ample time to write and be creative in other ways, means you have to know precisely what is going to be on your plate.
And what isn’t.

For many people being available for their loved ones to offer ongoing support and connection, or to respond happily when an invitation comes to hang out NOW immediately, is not a problem at all.
But the spice of life.

So no judgement.

But choose.

What is so important to you, that it’s allowed to take over your life?

The very thing you’re actually here for.

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our (phone) consciousness | Share Your Work 2025 05 12

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Last weekend I had the unpleasant, expensive and time-consuming pleasure of needing to replace my phone and using the service of a store where I bought a new phone, to transfer all phone related data.

When I went back in on Sunday, to finish the process of transferring the data between the two phones, I had decided to transfer the photos myself, so that’s still going on as I am typing this.

But all in all the whole process still took two shops, two days, and several hours when my phone, or phones, were handled by other people.

And having my data going through other people’s wifis, cables and close to other people’s computers while being completely unlocked, brought up quite the assortment of unpleasant feelings with regard to privacy and online vulnerability.

That I am “beyond” the point where I trust other people with my phone or computer.
I assume thinking about cranking up the safety versus convenience and versus the risk of losing access to your own vaults, will be a lifelong assignment.
And not one with easy answers.

But it did get me thinking why I believe my anxiety was more than just a knee jerk response to someone touching my phone.
And that reason is consciousness.

Because in yoga, the aim is to bring the consciousness into the body. The ultimate goal is that consciousness and body are one.
To experience body and consciousness as One.

Now this has never been easy but since 2013-ish, our consciousness is not just consumed by worldly affairs or external factors in general;
But our consciousness is being hacked and drained by algorithms harvesting data and then feeding what we like back to us.
And through our phones in particular!

Our phones are where our lifeforce, our consciousness, is being taken from us.
Because we are trained to GIVE our consciousness to it.

Instead of our body and our consciousness becoming one, and reaching enlightenment, what we experience is the opposite.

My mind and my phone have become One.
And I don’t want that.


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you can reverse a decision | What Do Rock Stars Need To Hear Today (we’re back!)

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you can reverse a decision
and for reasons no one needs to know

you don’t even need to apologize
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It was to be expected that I’d cut too deep.
Even today, as I am still in this seemingly never-ending process of culling my remaining blogs, series, and YouTube channels, I am surprised that these processes can apparently go together;

Both cutting deeper.
As well as being able to say:

“I need What Do Rock Stars Need To Hear Today back.”

One of the lessons I am learning is that you can base a decision on pretty dense criteria, which definitely try to defy the productivity cultus;
And still get it wrong.

My criterium was:
“Where am I making something high-risk with an unknown outcome, that challenges me and makes me think Oh God I can’t do this?”

And now a couple of weeks later, I’m like:
“I miss What Do Rock Stars Need To Hear Today.
And I’m going to pick it up, make way simpler Canva pictures and crunch it into one Instagram length post.”

So I seized back the one series from the recycle bin that had always come easy to me, and will turn them into a spoon-fed snack-size.
The series has always come so easy to me, it has felt like cheating;
And now I was going to make it even easier.

It reminds me about the men I fall in love with. And although I like to see myself as someone who likes a wide variety of men, this is not true at all.
They are always men whom I would classify as:
Very easy to fall in love with.
Only to then go in denial for months.
It’s like I am immediately ashamed, to fall for such a man.

And this is a confession that has “so much to unpack”, but the reason I respond by drawing back immediately is because deep down I feel it means I am shallow.

When EVEN if that is true? I’m a full-grown adult.
It’s safe to assume I’m way past the point I would be able to correct on “shallow”.

So is an Instagram-length post called What Do Rock Stars Need To Hear Today, shallow?

Maybe!

But I’m gonna commit to them, stand by them;
And give them my heart.

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