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The 369-10 Method | How I quit my online addiction without getting rid of my smartphone

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Foundational post for the 369-10 method.
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Now definitely WITH the understanding that this thing needs testing,
and has not been submitted to any kind of pressure,
I do feel celebratory because the laboratory version of my new offline lifestyle, WORKS.

I’ve been diligently searching for a way to purge my online addiction and have been reporting my progress in this series since May 2025.

The name Paperbag Files is inspired by the paperbag cover of the dvd of the movie Fight Club.
A movie which made a brave attempt to beat us out of excessive media consumption in 1999.
Without understanding we would one day kill for that turn of the century calm of an offline world without pesky digital devices with whom we have amalgamated to cyborg levels.
We are not just using devices, we no longer know who we are without them.

And so the quest began, and the good news definitely is:
I am healed.
Done.
And like that other 1999 movie The Matrix that predicted we would one day live inside a digital world, I can see the glitches coming and the rough bleak reality seeping through.
And loving it not because of its beauty, but because it is real.

Just like the rebels in the Matrix have to feed themselves with awful food and dress their real-life bodies still marked by digital sockets, in dull greyish green clothing;
Things are not pretty here.
And boy, does the future look bleak.
Intensely lonely.

I hope to find other offline rebels.
But for now this will do.

I am not (yet?) able to identify the underlying mindset shift, that flipped me from trying to go offline (and largely failing), to thriving.

But what I can do, is to tell you how I have made it actionable.

I call the method:
369-10

I turn off my phone for 3 hours;
From 6PM to 9PM.
And again at 10PM for the night.
(leaving phone in the hall)

That’s it.

So although I try to find as many hours during the day as I can, to turn my phone off, the core and non-negotiable ones are:
From 6 to 9.
And after 10PM

“You decide your own level of involvement!” Tyler Durden

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Rock Star Take On RESPECT | The New Rock Star Channel (new video)

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Rock Star Take On RESPECT
| The New Rock Star Channel 

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The New Rock Star Channel is back!
With a new format:
– 10 minute video
– no preparation

This week, the eleventh video.
A Rock Star Take On RESPECT

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2 Rock Star Things That Took Me 25 Years To Find Out
OR All videos with the playlist of this series: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLNB-coaKIJpD5pxPVdrsGG37nvPCaXZIU
The New Rock Star Channel
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In this video;

1. We’re back! 00:00
With another episode of a Rock Star Take On.
And this time the topic is RESPECT.
We rebooted this series a few weeks ago.
Changes that were made are:
– Vids are now 10 minutes.
– And I go in without preparation.
The unprepared part can never prevent that I think about the topic in advance.

But luckily those insights had their own way of disappearing and by now I have no way to reach them anymore.
So unprepared indeed!

2. Respect “versus” Disrespect 01:11
Except that it’s almost impossible to separate the two!
They’re like Siamese twins.

3. Show, don’t tell 03:03
The key is to show respect, not naming or claiming it.
Which makes respect very actionable:
“How can I show respect?”
Even when you may question aspects of someone.

“How can I respect the people around me?”
And:
“How can I respect the work I have to do?”

4. All responsibilities are created equal 05:48
And no one is more valuable, or worth of more respect than the other.
Even streaming Netflix can be done in a valuable way.

5. What’s Next 09:27
Because we’re covering so many hefty subjects, we’re gonna need a breather every now and then 😅
So as a comic relief, I will make another one about sexuality.
Something that for many of us, is lighthearted!

Plan on making that a recurring theme for this series, just to wash out all the seriousness and start afresh.

Therefor, the next stop is Rock Star Take On
SEXUALITY!

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stop messing with purpose | What Do Rock Stars Need To Hear Today

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stop messing with purpose

Beneath the doubt, the fear, the constant checking;
Behind the yearning for validation, recognition, someone to lean on or even just to lean with!

You know why it is you’re here.

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Today I walked the streets of a rebuilt Roman neighborhood.

I got lost in their alleys, I ate at their inn, I discovered their city villa, centered around the small enclosed courtyard of stone.

I missed the penis sign which had made me wonder years ago, if it was supposed to depict a brothel.
A rebuilt brothel which we had not entered because it had been under construction, but now that I was there, seven years later, I forgot to go into the building and check.
I did not remember.

But I also climbed the wide white stairs of the palace, a wooden throne at its center which the visitors could not sit on.
But it was clear this palace and the large square surrounded by walls, belonged to the ruler of the village.
The palace and its stairs a stage, more than a functional way to enter a home.

And I stood there, in front of an imaginary crowd who had gathered to see their new ruler and I said:
“I shall be your first female senator, and I am your ruler! You will all bow to me!”
And this was after I had already lingered at a high terrace balconies overlooking a hill, saying:
“I could order the troops from here.”
And in my mind I could already hear a horn.

It were playful thoughts and probably inspired by role players who were at the site. I could see roman soldiers left, right and center.
But still the moments lingered in my mind.
They were fiction, yes, but fiction that resonated.

And I realized that whatever it is we do believe we are here to do, it deserves to be lived like that.

We need to find our point of focus, of power, of truth.
To live it, to speak it, to wear it.

Until we can hear the sound of the horn.

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Choosing Art | Share Your Work 2025 07 28

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A very long time ago, I became single. I was excited about the choice but also expected it would end up biting me in the ass. I expected a price to be paid.

And I was right;
Just not the price I anticipated.

Because couples can share burdens, decrease risks and pool resources.
One example is how medical treatment often requires someone to drive you and also to be the first line of emotional support as well as the first caregiver.
If you are single you seriously need to rethink your strategy here, since every medical visit means you have to rely on your social network, which can strain friendships and family bonds.

Being alone at gatherings or the existential idea of aging without next of kin, which were the abstract ideas I associated with being single, are not the first thing you should worry about.
It’s the day to day availability of someone who can step in and help you, either practically or just the soothing effect of having someone around.
My partner and me dropped on the couch every evening, with tea, cookies and cats. I have no memory of anything earth shattering or important happening there, yet it was so nourishing.

My old life dropping away took almost two decades.
And now I can truly say I am alone.
All the soft-landing support networks have become either less available, or there is a more narrowed down understanding of what we share.

So I am now the single I set out to be all those years ago.
Including the price I pay for that.
Yet I do not regret any of it.
The choice to label myself as solitary, like a tiger, was life changing and liberating.
And this year, when the edges of consequence have become razor sharp, has been the most creative by far.

When I was still with my partner I had no creativity to speak of.
Something was missing but it wasn’t the new love life as a single, that would prove to change my world;
It was creating.

The biggest thrill of being single is to have art at the center of your life.

Art is The One.


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offer where it can happen | What Do Rock Stars Need To Hear Today

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offer where it can happen

Most of us do not create physical art, but immaterial.
And we call it a service or a business, because that makes it more trustworthy.

But we know it’s art.

The art of offering a space where others feel alive.
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I just had the unexpected pleasure of visiting one of the top trucker🚚🚛 rest stops of the Netherlands:
Frans op den Bult

And coming from someone who knows absolutely nothing about trucks, but who has definitely visited quite her share of restaurants, I can say I have never encountered anything like it.

And that renaming it to:
The Frans op den Bult EXPERIENCE
would hold up.
Because I was mesmerized.

Yet technically, it was simply a restaurant, which had been accommodated to truckers.
While also doing an outstanding job of feeding hungry tourists and for a price they will not be getting anywhere else within the borders of this country.

Which has begged the question;
What is it that makes them SO alluring I treat them with theme park reverence?! 🎢🏰🎡

Now I’m not going to cover the setup for truckers but just to give you an idea:
-high drive through arches made of steel poles, and welcoming banners in their characteristic blue with white lettering
-safe parking for 160 trucks
-sanitary facilities incl showers
-best tables of the house reserved for truckers

And yes, I think what makes them so appealing is because they needed a system that served truckers.
But that the trick is it’s working like a charm for all visitors.

Because they created a system that HOLDS you.
A framework, not just literally with those high drive-through gates, but figuratively.
And you feel that.

They see you, welcome you.
But before you are allowed into the restaurant you are cleared and given a pass.

The pass literally means:
“YOU are now allowed to pass.”
You’re crossing a guarded border and entering a different world.

And that?
Is what people pay for.

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Rock Star Take On INTERVENTIONS | The New Rock Star Channel (new video)

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Rock Star Take On INTERVENTIONS
| The New Rock Star Channel 

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With a new format:
– 10 minute video
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This week, the tenth video.
A Rock Star Take On INTERVENTIONS

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2 Rock Star Things That Took Me 25 Years To Find Out
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In this video;

1. We’re back! 00:00
With another episode of a Rock Star Take On.
We rebooted this series a few weeks ago.
Changes that were made are:
– Vids are now 10 minutes. -Ish. Ten-minutes-ish!
– And I go in without preparation. Embodied knowledge only!

Invitation to subscribe to this current blog (Catacombe, where you are now).
In particular if I forget to include something in the video, then it will still be included here.

2. Interventions done right 02:17
Not an expert here, but came at it from the inquiry:
“But what would a GOOD intervention, actually look like?!”
+ definition what intervention even is, or what we usually mean when we’re talking about interventions.

3. Do it alone 03:40
Do it with the minimum amount of people, ideally one-on-one.
(make adjustments if needed, in particular for your own safety)
Maybe “official” interveners have a different perspective on this, but to me 1-on-1 is ideal because respect and equality should be leading.
Not overpowering the person you’re intervening on, by six to one or whatever, is a good start.

4. Don’t tie it to your support or presence 05:05
Before the intervention, already make a decision whether you’re going to stay in this person’s life (even if it might be in a small way) or if you are leaving (but with the door open for when they’re clean/sober).
Communicate the decision with clarity, very early in the meeting.
Make clear that this decision is independent from how the person responds to the intervention.

5. Empowerment 07:00
Make it a respectful conversation, honoring the choices someone has made or is making, and coming at it from them being in the director’s chair of their life.
Or you reminding them of the truth of them being in control.

An intervention done right is about respecting yourself (the intervener), respecting the other (the intervened) and speaking in a way that invites them to respect themselves.

Let’s explore this concept a little bit deeper.
The next stop is Rock Star Take On
RESPECT!

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shame, your final reckoning | What Do Rock Stars Need To Hear Today

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shame, your final reckoning

When you’re almost there!

Confronted your most personal fears, rinsed your deepest wounds and even successfully finished your Passive Aggressiveness Combat Training, which we all know almost none of us master;

There it is.
And you can start all over again.

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Shame and capitalism.

If I was in the business of giving advice to dictators, new gurus or even invading aliens looking for the best hook to implement either their nefarious or virtuous agenda (it works on both);

Or even if I was doing nothing more than writing a blogpost for one reader in 2025 or in a timeline far far away;

I would give all of them the same advice.

Study shame and capitalism, and you will have all you need to understand, infiltrate, and conquer humanity.

And although I would try not to brag, especially in the case of aliens because there is little point in inter-galactic comparison, but I don’t think I would be able to refrain from adding;
“Trust me on this”
“Thank me later”
or even:
“You’re gonna love it”

We will do everything for money.
And we will do everything to not be shamed.

Humanity has built its own mental prison, and one the majority of us are not even aware of.
Yet this framework is not just built, but also attended to and freely maintained by everybody, as we go about unconsciously living its law.

We’ve all been both victims as well as henchmen, accomplices, and to both capitalist repression as well as shaming others even when it is just by parroting values that are based on exclusion.
On not being good enough and not worthy unless.

You think you’re finally making headway with this whole enlightenment thing and there it is…

(Shame:)
“You didn’t think it was gonna be that easy, did you?”

(You:)
“You know, for a second there, yeah.
I kinda did.”*

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you decide the rules | What Do Rock Stars Need To Hear Today

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you decide the rules

Just because everybody’s afraid of the darkness of the sea;

The razor sharp ridges
Unexplored trenches and underwater caves

Doesn’t mean that includes you.

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I’m on the cusp of two incredibly big changes in my life.
One professional, one private.
And in areas that have been challenging for me in the past.

They used to come with a whole bag of unsorted emotions, but the general label was that the professional bag carried more anger and frustration, and the private one loss and sadness, but also love.

This particular professional bag was one of the oldest ones I had.
I had never chosen it, or I had but in a “this one is the lesser of all evils” kind of way.
The bag came with the promise that I didn’t need to choose yet.

Whereas the private bag was one I had chosen very deliberately, and much more recent than the professional one.
I had made great sacrifices for her, as it came at great cost.
You could say I still I am still living the consequences of insisting this luxury bag to be mine.
Would not trade it for the world though.

And now both bags have been cleaned out, figuratively speaking
– although maybe it would be cool to select two bags from my collection to represent this new phase! –
and this summer they will step into this new life with me.

And in the words of Carrie Bradshaw, I couldn’t help but wonder:
Do they still carry that same baggage? The same emotions?
Somewhere deep inside the pockets.
Sewn in, between the seams.

But although only time will tell, I don’t think so.
Can’t find any residue, they appear to be clean.

And it mirrors the mental clarity I have now.
It was never about what anyone or anything tossed inside of them.
Not about unwanted baggage.

It’s about you treating them with dignity.
Knowing them inside and out.

And in return they’ll give you their power, their secrets and their darkest sorcery.

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Rock Star Take On COMEBACKS (because we’re back!) | The New Rock Star Channel (new video)

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Rock Star Take On BELONGING
| The New Rock Star Channel 

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The New Rock Star Channel is back!
Thank you for your patience.

This week, the ninth video.
A Rock Star Take On COMEBACKS

—
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https://youtu.be/AQCIWDhaK4E
2 Rock Star Things That Took Me 25 Years To Find Out
—

In this video;

1. We’re back! 00:00
With another episode of a Rock Star Take On.
Small recap about what happened that I had to pause.

2. There are some exciting new changes! 01:00

– AIMING for a 10 minute video
Sure taking it as a divine blessing and a sign that this one indeed turned out being exactly 10:00 after editing.

– NO PREPERATION or REFINEMENT
I’m only going to share what pops to mind immediately, off-the-cuff, no preparation.
In the age of AI, the biggest advantage real humans have is that they share embodied knowledge.
It’s not just information, it’s an energetic transmission.
The way to assure this embodied information, is not just to only share what you know and live by;
But also to not create abstractions, generalizations, or new models from it.
Just share it in the raw form.

3. Rock Star Take On COMEBACKS 03:47

4. it’s not a comeback 04:04
You were always ON A PATH.
It may not have been by choice, it could have been a questionable way to live your life; And it may have been far from ideal and not something you recommend or care to repeat but nevertheless;
A path is a path!

So a comeback means you’re coming back to (positive) visibility.
But you’ve never been away from your path.

5. up for consideration: THE REDEMPTION ARC 05:35
Do you feel like marking this new beginning, and the change in who you have become?
Then looking into your Redemption Arc, could be helpful.

What was your lowest point, or the moment you crossed over to the dark side? What was the moment you thought you would die.
Yet you made a different choice and saved yourself, or you were saved by higher powers.
That, is the story of your redemption.

The Redemption Arc, is how you can understand – and share if you wish – the story of your fall and your rise/ comeback, in a meaningful and memorable way.

6. the Star Wars Redemption Arc 06:33
Where to find an example of this concept of redemption arc.

7. Wrap up 09:24
These videos will be aimed at being 10 minutes –
But what I didn’t know when I was filming was that this first comeback video would indeed turn out to be exactly 10 minutes. It was definitely divine intervention.

Some comeback!

Next stop, Rock Star Take On?
How about “INTERVENTIONS”?!

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consciousness is king | What Do Rock Stars Need To Hear Today

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consciousness is king

The world has changed.
What was once true is no longer enough.
The war for our minds has intensified, and needs to be rebuilt from within.

Today.

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I make it into a game.
With stories about difficult situations which I hear or read
– and I’m the first to admit my own stories and difficult situations are the last to be subjected to this. In many ways I am a rookie! –
I try to identify what the underlying cause was that lead to this.

Not to see if it could have been prevented, or whose fault it is. It is not that personal, and it has nothing to do with the human or emotional side, which is a parallel story in my mind. 

No, what I mean is that at some point, and this can be days after I have heard it, I will scan the situation from a bird’s eye perspective.
What was the underlying conflict of interest?
Who was in power?
Were they held accountable for their actions?

And what it comes down to is that there is always a lack of information.
Rarely can things be explained in a straightforward way. The motivations can only be attributed indirectly, by tracking their actions back.

So you know someone is “pushing” for a certain outcome, and pushing can mean neglect and not doing anything and waiting for it to fall apart.
But it usually stays a mystery why this is the outcome that person or party wants. 
We don’t know.
And more often than not, I have concluded that in all likeliness this person or party does not know themselves either.

So the non-dominant party does not only face the problem of being overpowered, but by a party who is acting from instinct, like a wounded animal.

We used to have a prime minister in the Netherlands, who in one of his more honest moments confessed that no one was going to give an explanation about a certain situation.

Well, newsflash!
No one ever is.

The only chance any of us ever have, is not by understanding the darkness of our enemy;
But by becoming the light, within.

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