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there is a magic bullet | What Do Rock Stars Need To Hear Today | 7th in the “Lost Posts” series | 2025 10 13 + 2023 07 01 (OG)
there is a magic bullet
you just need to bite itThere is great power unleashed, when you make big decisions.
The energy will propel you forward.Where can you bite a bullet, and get new fuel?
original posted on my social media
30 June 2023
—Retrieved, blogged, and story added October 2025
From the moment I started following Online Marketing, I was immediately hooked.
It’s difficult to estimate when I came on board, because my memories are a bit blurry.I would swear I was still in my 2008 home when I discussed my first online business coach, yet my email box does not come up with any results on her name, before 2014.
Which was the year I discovered multiple ones, leaving me both entirely overwhelmed and euphoric.But also puzzled, because how was this possible?
Every female business coach online provided nothing less than mesmerizing, earth-shaking, life-changing programs that elevated both working as an independent, as well as elevate your whole entire life to mesmerizing rock star heights;
Then how did I miss this?And how come no one in the Netherlands talked about this?
Even though I had graduated on marketing and had been familiar with Multi-level marketing organizations without even knowing the word MLM.
That’s how new they had been at the time, and yet I HAD KNOWN them!But this new wave of female business coaches, learning us how to run a business and to sell our services;
They were using the same words (marketing, small business, selling) yet I could immediately tell it was nothing I had ever encountered.And how they had managed to make marketing in college so boring, when it was clearly anything but?
Q: Why had I missed the immense power in having your own business?
A: Because it has little to do with the actual running of the biz.
And absolutely everything;
With being the trailblazing Rock Star you came here to be..
~Suzanne Beenackers
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ABOUT THE LOST POST SERIESI have been consistently posting “What Do Rock Stars Need To Hear Today” for a while now.
Starting June 2023, they found their final form as blogposts here on the Catacombe blog, pretty quickly.But I’ve always been aware there were singular posts/ borderline poetry, still on social media, floating somewhere down my timeline.
Some at the beginning when I did not know what this series would be.
Some around the time in October/November 2023, when I lost access to this site.
And then a few in between.And in addition to that there are the ones I did post on the blog, but whose stories revolve around things I no longer offer.
I will retrieve those too;
And give them a new story, that has the timeless quality they deserve..
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stop trying | What Do Rock Stars Need To Hear Today
stop tryingAnd not in the Yoda slash just-do-it way of getting into action and skip the hovering and apologetic overthinking like you’re not sure if you can do it.
But the full renouncement of success.
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For a short, but for many of us an incredibly formative, period of about 5 years, from 1991 to 1995,
– or perhaps 1996, I have not yet received The Nineties: A Book by Chuck Klosterman (2022), and am retelling this story from what I picked up from half a dozen interviews I binge watched, which he gave from his gorgeous 70s inspired-room which all interviewers so far have deemed too unimportant to ask him about –
But for that incredibly brief and definitely forgotten period of time, a peculiar mindset had spread throughout the 20s demographic;
The rejection of commercialism, but this extended into the entire dismissal of success.Success was synonymous with being a sell-out, where sell-out stood both for having been inauthentic and out of integrity on your path towards it, two characteristics which were identity suicide back then;
But sell-out also covered the broader idea of being out of integrity BECAUSE you were commercially successful.The very fact that you had success proved you were a sell-out.
Everybody adopting this mindset, acquired a lifelong disadvantage building a career.
Success was a bad thing.It explains the intensity of successful grunge bands at the time, who experienced the tension between their values and their reality of being the leading genre.
But even if you were aspiring, trying or in any way looking for outside validation, you were immediately thrown of the coolness-wagon.
30 Years later – and we forgot this.
But at the time the philosophy was so deeply engrained into our minds, not even a can of soda could be sold without understanding this nihilistic set of 90s values.Also 30 Years later-
And no one, forgot grunge.~Suzanne Beenackers
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2020 Broke *cross out* built me | Share Your Work 2025 10 06
Someone told me it would be a year of great disruption and unrest. She said it with a sense of acceptance and inevitability.It was the first of January 2020, and I had never met her before. Naturally I completely ignored the forecast yet within months we could all see she had been right.
The prophecy, was true.A few months ago, we met again. Just like in the café she was the one initiating the conversation.
I tried to figure out how we had met before, but neither one of us had any information that could help me fill in the blanks.
And she didn’t seem to recall meeting me at all.
But afterwards, I knew it.
It had been her, the one with the gift of foresight.Knowing I saw her again initially brought me a sense of closure. A feeling I have been actively looking for, ever since 2022.
For the longest time, I’ve been wanting to leave everything behind me. For everything to return to normal, because this is not Me.
This is not my life, and it never has been.The breakdown started years prior to 2020. Just that I thought I could turn it around, and in particular at the start of 2020 I felt incredibly optimistic!
But before the end of the year I had stopped teaching yoga and the only thing I thought about was why everything felt so horrible.So horribly alone.
Fast forward Fall 2025, and here I am remembering I met this woman, twice. And connecting it to a decision I made, just last week. A decision that has been a long time in the making;
This is my new life and I have finally, stopped wishing for a new one.Which does not mean I don’t have goals and dreams, and that I don’t look forward to the rest of my life.
I do!But I’ve stopped wishing for the feeling of belonging – which I miraculously had all my life regardless of its phase – to ever return.
Like all of us who have have lived in isolation, whether chosen as a spiritual practice or otherwise, there comes a point where we are no longer the person who we once were.
The change is now permanent.Just that I never saw it coming.
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~Suzanne Beenackers
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they all fall down | What Do Rock Stars Need To Hear Today
they all fall downEveryone who ever taught you, in whose footsteps you could follow, or who inspired you by sharing their life’s story.
The only place their wisdom survives, might be you.
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I have lost many teachers, but never to death. I have lost sanctuaries, but never to fire. And I’ve seen rise what was destroyed, simply because someone carried it in their heart, and buried the seed some place else, watered it, and let it grow into a new tree.
I can even remember the first divorce from a wedding I attended when I was only a few years old.
It was the first time I understood that nothing is forever. Not even (or perhaps in particular not?) when we believe it to be.But you never grow accustomed to it, not even to the endings that were not dramatic, spectacular or overly sad.
Even when you were very aware of their flaws. Again; Maybe especially then.
To have conflict or tension unresolved, or unexpressed.But what I have also noticed is excitement, like the experience has now become totally mine.
I no longer have to memorize the events the way other people do, and can flip it upside down, inside out and paste it together backwards.Religions, organizations, institutions, study groups, entire lineages or bodies of work;
Abandoned, sometimes left to die.Because someone died or because everyone just turned their back on it.
It’s not about legality, or taking something that isn’t yours;
It’s about this knowledge no longer having a body to live.Because the person or organization who embodied them, is gone.
This course you took, that book you purchased and that playlist you created on YouTube which now turns up grey because the channel was deleted;
You are now the one to carry this knowledge forward. Not by copying but by planting the seeds of the idea of it, into the fertile soil of everything you learned over the years;
And letting it grow.Not as an invitation, but a responsibility.
~Suzanne Beenackers
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Rock Star Take On EXPECTATIONS | The New Rock Star Channel (new video)
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Rock Star Take On EXPECTATIONS
| The New Rock Star Channel
—The New Rock Star Channel is back!
With a new format:
– 10 minute video
– no preparationThis week, the fifteenth video.
A Rock Star Take On EXPECTATIONS—
Or watch the foundational video first, from 24th Oct 2024:
https://youtu.be/AQCIWDhaK4E
2 Rock Star Things That Took Me 25 Years To Find Out
OR All videos with the playlist of this series: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLNB-coaKIJpD5pxPVdrsGG37nvPCaXZIU
The New Rock Star Channel
—In this video;
1. We’re back! 00:00
With another episode of a Rock Star Take On.
And this time the topic is EXPECTATIONS2. One of my biggest secrets 00:15
My No-Television-Nor-Streaming is not half as clean as it looks!
There is a form of questionable-quality content, I have now consumed an estimate of 1500 pieces of….3. And the top trait of Sigma females is?! 03:07
They does not take into account social expectations!
And I watched 1500 of these video’s and it’s one of her hallmarks.You know why?
Because defying social expectations will give you an entirely new identity.4. Social Programming 03:55
Social expectations have a tremendous impact on our decision making.
We are conditioned to take into account all kinds of unspoken rules.
This tool of expectations belongs to patriarchy and capitalism.
It needs us to repress one another, with expectations.5. Rock Star take on expectations 05:48
Just like the Sigma female, defying expectations is one of the main traits, of a Rock Star.
Any successful Rock Star has started with push through society’s resistance, usually when they are a teen.
The Rock Star is defined, by the fact that they have fought this battle.However, where the social surroundings of men usually come around and start supporting him in his pursuits;
The pushback for women who adopt Rock Star identities, is more violent, and a lifelong battle.A Rock Star recognizes expectations as someone taking something away from you, without negotiating it.
Someone holding expectations over you, means they are attempting to overpower you.
Making fighting them a matter of principle, regardless of the content.6. Reminder what I do to counterbalance these hefty videos! 11:57
Every season I will be making a Rock Star Take on Sexuality. You can find them in the playlist, if you need them sooner😎And the next stop for Rock Star Take On?
SPIRITUALITY!It will go out on this blog.
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what you can’t live without | What Do Rock Stars Need To Hear Today
what you can’t live withoutIf you wouldn’t bother to drag it away from the gates of hell, and sigh at the first sign of adversity.
If anything extra is too much for what you’ve budgeted this would costBurn it.
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The movie Once Upon A Time In Mexico (2003) contains a striking goth image:
Johnny Depp’s character, stark black outfits and long dark hair, is wearing sunglasses to cover his missing eyes.Streams of thick dark red blood have dripped from his eye sockets.
Painting both undereye areas a ghastly red.Yet, he does not give up (his malicious ways).
Even having lost his eyes, he will not be defeated.Admirable.
However, we must take one thing into consideration:
He only has his work to focus on, whereas we probably also have a house to take care of, and maybe friends, family, circles of people we regularly see, and so on and so forth.We do not have just one job, we’d lose our eyes for and still keep going.
And that, makes it complicated.Even in Romeo and Juliet-like tales, where the main characters center their life around romance, ignoring the social code;
The war it causes illustrates this immediately has consequences.The truth is, it doesn’t really matter what you center your life around;
Career, romance, running, your health, activism or (my suggestion) your creativity;
It always, comes at a cost.Life has been designed in a way that allows only for shallow, on-the-fly constantly interrupted interactions, that would not even have counted as connection, a few decades ago.
If you want anything of meaning, you’re going to have to create it yourself.
The more junk-interactions you have, particularly online, consuming rather than creating or connecting;
The less value all those interactions have.And the happier the big tech companies are, to whom you’re feeding your entire consciousness.
Instead of to doing things that matter.Value is only in the things you’d lose your eyes for.
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~Suzanne Beenackers
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Art that requires curtains | Share Your Work 2025 09 22
In the 80s and 90s there was a small Dutch museum that unexpectedly became a mayor player in the art world:
Groningen.They had installed a director who would bring the museum world fame;
Its most talked about expositions;
A new building with spectacular modern architecture built in the middle of a canal;
And more financial mayhem and legal pushbacks any of the city’s officials were accustomed to receiving.One of the expositions contained so many sexually explicit photos, that it shook whomever heard about it to their core.
And this time, the controversy – the very thought these photos would be in a public space where every innocent museum visitor would be confronted with them – reached unprecedented heights.
Something had to be done.So they decided to have the most hardcore work all in one central space, and the other works would be shown in the adjacent spaces, I would guess ten of them, all spaces which were connected to one another.
Like one large horseshoe shaped corridor, around one “red hot center”.The entry points to the center were closed by huge black curtains, and guarded by attendants who would inform you of its shocking content, beforehand.
The space itself, in the belly of the building was huge!
But it was hot and reeked of the sweat of too many visitors and a ventilation system that was not up for the job.It was in this space, where our sexual repertoires were expanded.
The anticipation had only made us more susceptible to take it all in, without judgement.And the media storm subsided.
Until an incident happened no one had anticipated:
A mother breast fed her child at the café of the museum, and she was told that was not appropriate.
While within that very same building, giant depictions of humankind’s most deviant sexual acts were pinned to the walls.The lessons:
One, objectification and sexualization of women is problematic.
Two, we measure art with different standards.And three, when that one enfant terrible offers to make you a star?
They could be telling the truth..
~Suzanne Beenackers
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how can it serve you | What Do Rock Stars Need To Hear Today
how can it serve youProviding!
You thought life through and know what your purpose is because by now you live and breathe it and could recognize it deaf, blind, drunk, and with your hands bound behind your back;Then why are you not wildly excited about whatever it is you are currently doing?
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In my twenties I knew someone whose academic curriculum contained a book called: “Children need fairy tales” and I was also introduced to the work by Joseph Campbell, The Hero’s Journey.
Both were, in all probability, a useful addition to my education since I got my highschool education in the years when the Greeks were not part of it.
Our history classes started with the Romans, something my mother pointed out to me and I believed she even asked our history teacher why the Greeks were not part of Canon.Naturally, at the time I thought her concern with this was merely her professional pre-occupation with the topic, and didn’t think much of it.
But just like children who are raised without sugar (I was ALSO raised without sugar, so I can attest to this from experience) I developed a fascination with it.
Through mysterious ways of boyfriends giving me books on the subject (without them being on my wish list), fan fiction (you may want to look that up, in case you’re unfamiliar with the term) where the Greeks became a popular topic after the early 21st century Greek revival in movies;
And numerous other ways, I learned Greek mythology in a deeply intimate way…And what both the fairy tales as well as the Greeks have in common, is pointed out in Joseph Campbell’s Hero’s Journey.
Because they’re quests, which you cannot successfully fulfil unless you have first overcome the series of challenges directly on your path.
You are trained by the path itself, as you are on your way.
In the unfolding, you receive what you need later on.Nothing is ever wasted.
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~Suzanne Beenackers
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Rock Star Take On FREEDOM | The New Rock Star Channel (new video)
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Rock Star Take On FREEDOM
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—The New Rock Star Channel is back!
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A Rock Star Take On FREEDOM—
Or watch the foundational video first, from 24th Oct 2024:
https://youtu.be/AQCIWDhaK4E
2 Rock Star Things That Took Me 25 Years To Find Out
OR All videos with the playlist of this series: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLNB-coaKIJpD5pxPVdrsGG37nvPCaXZIU
The New Rock Star Channel
—In this video;
1. We’re back! 00:00
With another episode of a Rock Star Take On.
And this time the topic is FREEDOMThese new videos
– are 10 minutes-ish.
– And I go in without preparation.
So I can only speak about what I know very well.2. Related to autonomy and power 01:22
Freedom means being able to live life on your own terms.
The opposite of freedom is living according to someone else’s rules.
Therefor, freedom is intimately tied to being autonomous and having enough power to live according to your own values.Freedom is difficult to obtain because it is opposed by the (power) structures of how society works.
3. Fighting an unseen enemy 04:11
The shackles society has put on us, and ways in which it manipulates us into walking in line, are invisible.
You probably have no idea what you’re up against, until the moment you start breaking out.We’re talking generations and even thousands of years of repression here, meticulously woven into the fabric of society.
4. The anti-social Rock Star 05:58
The reason the Rock Star as an arche-type, or symbol, has a bit of an anti-social streak, is because they go against, these patterns of social repression.
A Rock Star is free BECAUSE they oppose this conditioning, and break these chains that almost none of us dare to touch.5. It’s not easy 06:30
Freedom is definitely not the cookie-cutter surface level thing, we usually associate it with. It is tied to a murky messy pot of expectations and pressures, that are extremely challenging to get around.
In particular because it is so intangible.6. Our vision of Freedom 07:45
It all starts with our own vision of Freedom, and estimating if that is truly our biggest value.
But beware of the shock once you start walking that path!
The enemies of freedom are fierce, ancient and they fight dirty.7. The rareness of the Rock Star 08:20
There is a reason why few reach Rock Star levels of freedom, because true freedom requires sacrifice.
8. Next time 09:38
In this talk about Freedom we already brushed on the importance on understanding the pressure of expectations.
Therefor, the next stop is Rock Star Take On
EXPECTATIONS!It will go out on this blog.
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your game is multi-level | What Do Rock Stars Need To Hear Today
your game is multi-level
With your image so curated, every bit of you speaking your razor sharp truth, it is easy to forget this layer came last.
The only logical outcome after a process that took you through every cell of your being.
And to the gates of hell and back.
—A few weeks ago, I was on the verge of Googling what “Flirting in subtext” meant.
I suspected (and fervently hoped!) it was my natural flirting style, which was odd to say the least, because I did not even know what flirting in subtext meant!I felt SEEN, by my own creative word play, and even if Google didn’t come up with anything I was still convinced there were more people with this flirting style.
The rare ones, who had flirted back….But before I got around it, the answer unfolded naturally, from a conversation that initially appeared to be about an entirely unrelated topic.
Which was when I asked someone to help me untangle something about myself.I asked them:
“I crave deep connection in friendships, but we rarely have what others would view as deep conversations.
How is that possible?
How can I crave depth, and apparently find it in fun and banter?”And what we found is that what happens when people connect at their deepest levels, the communication channel itself is freed up.
And can now be used in whatever way the two of you fancy.
Which in my case, often means play.A great performer, is someone who has mastered all the layers of their being.
They can speak without words, touch without using their hands and connect without even being in the same room.
They create a bond, that transcends time and space.Naturally, the people who can pick up on that frequency, are excited!
Convinced that this is magic.
Because it is.But it is the one who answers that call, on an energetic level, using their words for something else entirely;
Those, are the ones we remember.It is then, that we feel seen.
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~Suzanne Beenackers
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