What even the Rock Star doesn’t know about their craft. | 2023 03 28 Top offers 3: “THE ROCK STAR” (final offer in this series)

19 March, 2023, Me (Suzanne Beenackers)

Let me guess your most unappreciated talent, Rock Star.
Sex, I’m gonna go with sex.

Oh, I’m kidding!
I wasn’t guessing, I’m dead certain that is your hidden quality.

Not hidden as in that nobody knows, but hidden in the sense of:
Underappreciated or even unappreciated.
Never mentioned by anyone other than admirers who whisper it behind your back. Or scream it to your face, depending on the context as well as their social skills.

Hidden in the sense of: Never brought to the table by any professional concerned with your mental, physical or financial well-being.
Your artistic accomplishments?
Oh, I definitely think 99 out of a 100 professionals with a responsibility or direct interest in the artistic side of your career, will mention it.
Don’t think the world of fine arts, and that includes performance art and that includes rock n’ roll- don’t think they are in the dark about where your Rock Star power comes from.

And these people in arts know the details, the very physics, of how these powers work. Whereas the ones concerned with the financial success of an artist usually got it all backwards:
They think the artist being in a committed relationship, hurts sales.
That it is the actual fact of the artist being available versus unavailable, that determines their Rock Star power.
But they got it all backwards:
It is not the knowledge that they are married, or not heterosexual, or a relationship being out in the open, that has ever hurt the career of the artist.
What did hurt, was when it changed them.

When the relationship started eating away their Rock Star charisma and sexual zest, from the inside out.
THAT, is what hurts sales.

And it is also what hurts creative, artistic and performance quality in general, but like I said the people concerned with those aspects of art and music, know that.

It’s just that the rest of the world still clings to this idea that we can somehow put a Rock Star on a leash, give them domestic responsibilities and an extra sticker when they are faithful;
And somehow magically NOT kill what we liked about them in the first place.
What everybody liked about them, what has made or could make them millions, and put bread on the table for a lot more families than just their own.
That, is what diminishes Rock Star power.
Not their relationship status.

After this three things can happen.

The first is: They just walk out. 
This is absolutely my favorite, but it is very rare. This is the Rock Star getting their act together overnight, ends it all, and is completely unavailable for any comments later on.
They just vanish from your life, and never return.
The only way to see them again, is to sue them and drag their Rock Star ass to court.

Then, there’s the second one, who blows it up but with both the energy-save  as well as the ego-save buttons On.
What they’ll do is have an affair, miss some (or as many as needed) appointments and agreements in a very sloppy way, until the other party is so angry they blow up the relationship.
Everyone’s ego is saved:
The Rock Star’s ego is saved because they blame the fail on the partner being totally unreasonable, and the partner’s ego is saved, because it wasn’t their fault and they can blame it all on the Rock Star.
This is the most common way, in particular because the Rock Star uses the aggression and disappointment of the partner, to do all the heavy lifting.
They don’t have to do anything, except being an asshole at some strategic moments that really count.

But sadly, what happens most often, is that the Rock Star doesn’t make it out.
Oh, there’s a happy ending alright!
Nobody cheats, nobody blows anything up. Hell, even the quarreling and the bickering just stop…. ‘Cause the Rock Star has given up, Baby.

This scenario, the most common one, the most sad one, and the reason I so very strongly believe in the mission of this company Catacombe – and the scenario that definitely includes people who never got to see themselves as Rock Stars in the first place, despite their Rock Star power-
This third scenario is that the Rock Star dies.

They are talked into believing the only way to become good and accepted, and successful as a human being at large, is to be like other people, and to act normal.
This is a brainwash, a programming that can usually be blamed on the parents, who do not recognize the star power of their offspring but very well recognize the disruptive nature of their child;
And end it.

But they would have never been successful if society did not reinforce this behavior. If educators, peers, employers, and now in modern day social media; If they did not conspire together to finish off anything that could think on their own.
Rebel on their own.
And fuck, not on their own but with whomever lights a fire in them, and the feeling being mutual.
To fuck whomever they damn well please.

There is an unspoken, widespread understanding, that that?
Is dangerous.

So the Rock Stars are brainwashed and belittled, sex-shamed, slut-shamed, and their qualities go by unrecognized unless they are lucky enough to also possess other creative skills;
Then their sexually explosive, independent Rock Star qualities are seen as an add-on.
Something that gives the art, or the other usable qualities, a certain charm, but that is ultimately nothing more but a topping.
Not content.

Some manage to escape with an explosive midlife crisis, but those are rare.
But if you do know someone blowing up their life in midlife, please send them this post, okay?
They might need it.

Because in general, once scenario 3, the average-nothing-special-about-you-ness of it all, has its fangs in you?
-and that’s usually under 25 years old-
Oh, you’re out.
Try coming back from that one.

Even people ending those specific relationships, that they feel are contracting them, usually do it to recreate the same sexual prison with a new person.
Not to now let their best art come through them.
Let alone that they do it to really take that sexual power and talent to the next level.

To really take their enigmatic sexual Rock Star powers – that I believe God, the Universe themselves bestowed upon them!-
To really take the job of rocking THAT, seriously and attend to it?
Develop it, nurture it, get good at it?
Understand the mathematics of it, its logic, and at the same time the magic?
Never heard anyone do that……

And I understand that… because even I saved this one for last!
This is the third and final post, in my Top Offers series. The other two posts I wrote in this series, were far easier:
The first post was for the Business Owner.
The second for the Artist.
And this third one, for the Rock Star.

printable about the 3 identities at Catacombe:
three identities
a YouTube video about these three
003 Business owner, Artist, Rock Star | 3 Identities

This is my definition of a Rock Star:

A Rock Star is a performance artist, who can raise sexual energy, knows how to hold it, and how to move it.
They can transfer this sexual energy onto others.

A Rock Star is the physical embodiment of freedom.

Suzanne Beenackers

I have just contacted a photographer, about options to use pictures he took of Bon Jovi in their earliest years.
Because in these pre-Slippery When Wet years of the band, you can already see the star power of Jon Bon Jovi, on stage.
He was the youngest member of his own band, which he brought together only after he’d already gotten a record deal as a solo artist.

Jon Bon Jovi had been in bands and on stage, since he was a teen. And I mean 15, 16 years old. Really young.
I once encountered an interview that he regretted not having taken time off to work a summer on the boulevard. He thought he would have been good at it.
But he had been a driven teen, and had set out to make it in the music industry. He didn’t give himself time to goof around, when others did.

But when you listen and watch those oldest shows – in 1984 the year of their first show in The Netherlands opening for KISS in Zwolle, Jon was just 22 years old!
Bon Jovi – Live at IJsselhallen | Full Concert In Audio | Zwolle 1984(audio only)
– you can hear their Rock Star quality.

In 1984 they played songs from their first record, Bon Jovi-Bon Jovi (1984) but added acapella intros, adlibs (improvised lyrics), and depth and layers the original tracks on their record didn’t have.
Because none of them were beginning performers, in particular not the now
22 year old Jon Bon Jovi.

He was really showing up for the audience, and did not hide behind the music, nor the lyrics.
He did not hide behind the fact that he was in a band, either.
Jon Bon Jovi’s stage presence was as Rock Star as Rock Star can get, and as a fan you don’t hear me complain.

It’s just that now that I started this company Catacombe, and I am getting my head around these Rock Star concepts, and putting words to something that has been repressed effectively because it didn’t get words other than accusatory, belittling ones;
Words, hardly more favorable than flaws that were passable as long as you made sure the other things were really good;
It is only now that I wonder:
What would have happened if frontman Jon Bon Jovi had focused on THAT?

‘Cause they got better, Bon Jovi.
New Jersey (1988) was according to many, including me, their best album. And every music critic and cynic that was not on board yet, was seen and overcome by These Days (1995), after which Bon Jovi was a respectable band who had outgrown singing about the backseats of cars.

They got better artistically, musically.

But it all makes me wonder…. it all makes me wonder;
What if Jon Bon Jovi, had taken that charisma, that Rock Star power, that rare energy for which there are no words and that is bestowed upon only the few and the few get shamed for it;
What would have happened if THAT had gotten the thought, attention, priority, money, time, stage, and opportunity to develop?

What would happen if we stopped looking for other things to validate it, and start with the very thing the few lucky ones in 1984 must have been able to see dripping off that stage in Zwolle and beyond?


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You. Are. A. Rock Star. | 2023 02 06

Me and little bear Puux ready to rock at Guns N’ Roses.

Have you ever met someone who said they could make you a star?
I haven’t, but I know it from movies.

But I have experienced situations that were comparable to that Hollywood-esque situation, and I can tell you that even those watered down, simplified and far less suave offers that were going to make me the money and the glory, were absolutely irresistible.
But they always fell through, and in hindsight I think it was because they sensed I would be trouble.

They sensed that although I had the qualities, I had what it takes, I also had something else:
One hell of a personality.
My tongue (what I could say) could break the spine of a grown man, and that was just counting the intentional side of it. The self-defense, side of it.
How many spines, egos, and thin or thick layers of veneer I would have accidentally trampled upon and crushed on my way, would have been too much to count.

Naturally, that was not how I viewed it at the time.
At the time, I was deeply frustrated they did not call back, or that I wasn’t selected, or that the chance or opportunity that was already granted to me, was revoked or not followed through on without explanation.
When now, looking back, I can see it has been my biggest blessing.

Nothing is a full-proof protection against violence and manipulation, against exploitation and systemic abuse. And the best protection is privilege, including parental protection.
Something I had in spades.

I owe it first and foremost to my parents, that my life has been smooth. Although around the time I was 30, I made what I see as a huge mistake that has cost me 20 years of my life (even though I also know that nothing is ever lost, and there are no bad mistakes);
But that was my own mistake.
I didn’t do drugs, but I might as well have – that’s how totally off-path I consider those decades were. Although there are also moments I can see it went all exactly as it should have gone.

And even:
That I would not want to trade it!

But the blessing of not having been snatched by some kind of sexual or financial predator and of not having known abuse in the vulnerable years up  until 25, was also thanks to my ability to be aggressive in my language and  to having a set of fully functional boundaries.

That too, has protected me from situations where I would have been vulnerable and  powerless. Situations where I would have been bound by contracts or would have been under pressure of agencies that were getting money out of deals my silent compliance was required for.

It is not unthinkable that my ability to be aggressive in my words and defend myself, has saved my life.
Both, because I intervened quickly when something happened, usually by walking away but resorting to other means if required, and they saved my life by preventing those situations from happening altogether.

But they might have also kept me from getting offers to “make me a star”! 
Still would fall for it, wouldn’t you?
“I could make you a star….”
Oh, the seduction!
“I can make you, <insert your name>, a ROCK STAR!”
Oh baby, where do I sign up?

No, it is definitely not because I cannot be seduced, I was spared much misery and smothering contracts.
I can be seduced, and as the quite graphic yet also very common Dutch expression goes, I can be seduced with “one wet finger”. 

But no one ever promised to make me a star, nor seduced me to be a Rock Star.

And in all probability, no one has asked you either.
Because you too, would be trouble.
And because I fooled you a bit… Stars? Yes, they can be created.
By savvy agents, by important people in the industry, even by the people closest to them, like the parents or a spouse.

But Rock Stars?
Well…. Rock Stars can be created too, you know.
But only by one person.

The only one who can make you a Rock Star;
You – who has read this all the way down to the bottom of this Monday morning blogpost, written on the sixth of the month of February 2023;

The only one who can make you a Rock Star?
Is you.
But again, that’s still not totally accurate, because you were born this way. You could not NOT be a Rock Star, even if your money, fame, your very life, depended on it.

In practice, there is only one truth and one truth only:
In all your talented, feisty and disruptive glory-
You already are, a Rock Star.

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In the upcoming weeks I will be test-driving three powerful, life changing, Rock Star mentoring sessions:

1. Rock Your Business

Business coaching for creatives who want to monetize their art, or who want their business to support their art.

If you were trained to think in terms of demographics, target market, or even the numbers game of SEO and social media, when all those things are absolutely not what lights your heart and soul?
Then this is your curtain call to change it all, Rock Star.

A Rock Your Business session is my low investment offer.
For this whole year I have set the rate at the price my own local business coach charged me;
In 2018!
Rock Your Business is an incredibly good deal to break the chains of your industry, and start running your own show.  

2. The Artist

Get real about the highest work you are here to do.
What is the project or dream you’re putting off?
Could even be multiple ones!

This about your desire and knowing, you need to step into your full creative expression.
Even when no one, including you, understands what it is or how it will unfold.

This is about what should become your highest priority.
This, is the thing you know your life is for.

The Artist is a two hour session and a significantly bigger investment. 

Before moving on to my third offer, a message to

All Rock Stars

You are already a Rock Star.
By reading this blog, by letting my message resonate with you, it is already established that you do things differently, and that you ARE different.

By subscribing to this blog – where I will also be sharing the Rock Your Business videos, I will be making for you! –
you will already get great value, and it would be an absolute honor to work for you in this way.

If at any point you want to work with me personally, you can shoot me, Suzanne, an email at:
Containing a small motivation how I can help you or why you would like to work with me. Include your full name, and a link to the websites, social media accounts or LinkedIn, that are representative of what you are doing now, could be a career, a business and/or it could be your art.  

Your application, like your identity and everything else you tell me, is confidential and will not be shared with anyone else, with the exception of the bill which I need to give to my bookkeeper.
Your bill can be drawn up anonymously, if you prefer, but an anonymous bill will limit your possibilities of deducting the costs of our work together.

Other than my bookkeeper seeing the bills, no one sees my correspondence. I do not have an assistant for my social media nor my email.

After your application, and before taking you on as a client – for any offer – I make sure I can deliver you what you need and that working with me is what would help you most now.
My prices are not public, as they already fall under the larger umbrella of my client confidentiality.
Once we have established we’re a good fit, I give you the price of the session you are interested in, and you will have all the time you need to think about that.
All sessions are paid in advance, and bookings are not finalized until paid in full.

I hope this extra paragraph is helpful in giving you, Rock Star, an idea if my Catacombe offering is something that could help you.

Top offers

Before I give you my third and final offer, I want to point out that I also have two top offers, which I will rarely be communicating because they are very specific.

One for when you are on tour, so a high voltage offer!
On tour, can mean that you are literally on tour. Or it can mean whatever a comparable time would be, in your life.
“On Tour”, is the offer that allows us to
continue our work in what is a hectic, high-demand time.
A peak-time, in your artistic life.

And I have one offer for when you are in a very quiet phase, when you have it made so hard, that you wonder where the action is!
It’s called “The Genius”.

This is a time we can use that stability to take risks, a few dares perhaps?
Blow something up?!


In all likeliness, you will break things, blow things up, destroy and go on the occasional rampage.
Which is probably the most difficult thing to deal with, the most challenging aspect, of having a Rock Star personality.
But in your determination to not hurt other people, beware that you don’t hurt yourself instead.

Start seeing aggression as a sign something is wrong in your life. It is you making space, it is you defending boundaries.
The booze and the drugs, the overeating, the I-don’t-know-what;
It’s all just a sign of your dissatisfied Rock Star soul.

Start feeding it the things it really desires, the things it has a passion for and that you, Rock Star, crave from the bottom of your rebel heart.
Start giving it that, instead.

And then, finally, here is my third offer.
This is a bigger investment than 1. and 2., and together with the “on tour” offer, and the Genius offer, this is my first high-ticket one:


One session the length of a 3 hour rock concert, and we both know we’ll be totally wasted after. But in the most satisfying of ways.
This is your show, we are here for you and I am your rhythm section. And my suggestion as such, is that we play three separate sets, covering
A. Your financial freedom
B. Your creative freedom
and C. Your sexual freedom
You’re on that stage, because you are a performer, because you are a disruptor, and because you, are a symbol of freedom, Rock Star.

Your message, any Rock Star’s message, is the message of freedom.

And with your financial freedom being the least interesting for your message and to your audience (people meet people who are financially free all the time), your real capital as well as your lifeforce -just like everybody else’s!- is actually in those other two types of freedom:

The finance is important, and if you have your work dusting away on your computer or if you are totally into doing things that would sell like hotcakes if only you packaged them up, in your own Rock Star way?
Then yeah, sure. Sell it!

But your biggest most important things, your true capital as a Rock Star, are your freedom creatively and sexually.
More than anything else, that is what THE ROCK STAR session is about.

But talking financial freedom makes great foreplay 😉

Online/ Offline

Both 2. The Artist and 3. THE ROCK STAR are online sessions.

1. Rock Your Business is also available in real-life, in Nijmegen, The Netherlands

1. Rock Your Business and 2. The Artist are scheduled between 1 PM and 8 PM CET, Amsterdam Time, on weekdays.
THE ROCK STAR is flexible.


Yes, Let’s rock this!

Apply for Rock Your Business, The Artist or THE ROCK STAR,
by shooting me, Suzanne, an email at:

Containing a small motivation how I can help you or why you would like to work with me. Include your full name, and a link to the websites, social media accounts or LinkedIn, that are representative of what you are doing now. Could be a career, a business and/or it could be your art.
And of course, tell me what you would like to achieve!

Keep it short and powerful, so that I can immediately see what you’re made of!
“I want to rule the world” will do just fine 😉 

After we have established we’re a good fit, I give you the price of the session you are interested in, Rock Your Business, The Artist or THE ROCK STAR.

I’m looking forward to your application, and am very excited to get our show on the road!

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