Let me guess your most unappreciated talent, Rock Star.
Sex, I’m gonna go with sex.
Oh, I’m kidding!
I wasn’t guessing, I’m dead certain that is your hidden quality.
Not hidden as in that nobody knows, but hidden in the sense of:
Underappreciated or even unappreciated.
Never mentioned by anyone other than admirers who whisper it behind your back. Or scream it to your face, depending on the context as well as their social skills.
Hidden in the sense of: Never brought to the table by any professional concerned with your mental, physical or financial well-being.
Your artistic accomplishments?
Oh, I definitely think 99 out of a 100 professionals with a responsibility or direct interest in the artistic side of your career, will mention it.
Don’t think the world of fine arts, and that includes performance art and that includes rock n’ roll- don’t think they are in the dark about where your Rock Star power comes from.
And these people in arts know the details, the very physics, of how these powers work. Whereas the ones concerned with the financial success of an artist usually got it all backwards:
They think the artist being in a committed relationship, hurts sales.
That it is the actual fact of the artist being available versus unavailable, that determines their Rock Star power.
But they got it all backwards:
It is not the knowledge that they are married, or not heterosexual, or a relationship being out in the open, that has ever hurt the career of the artist.
What did hurt, was when it changed them.
When the relationship started eating away their Rock Star charisma and sexual zest, from the inside out.
THAT, is what hurts sales.
And it is also what hurts creative, artistic and performance quality in general, but like I said the people concerned with those aspects of art and music, know that.
It’s just that the rest of the world still clings to this idea that we can somehow put a Rock Star on a leash, give them domestic responsibilities and an extra sticker when they are faithful;
And somehow magically NOT kill what we liked about them in the first place.
What everybody liked about them, what has made or could make them millions, and put bread on the table for a lot more families than just their own.
That, is what diminishes Rock Star power.
Not their relationship status.
After this three things can happen.
The first is: They just walk out.
This is absolutely my favorite, but it is very rare. This is the Rock Star getting their act together overnight, ends it all, and is completely unavailable for any comments later on.
They just vanish from your life, and never return.
The only way to see them again, is to sue them and drag their Rock Star ass to court.
Then, there’s the second one, who blows it up but with both the energy-save as well as the ego-save buttons On.
What they’ll do is have an affair, miss some (or as many as needed) appointments and agreements in a very sloppy way, until the other party is so angry they blow up the relationship.
Everyone’s ego is saved:
The Rock Star’s ego is saved because they blame the fail on the partner being totally unreasonable, and the partner’s ego is saved, because it wasn’t their fault and they can blame it all on the Rock Star.
This is the most common way, in particular because the Rock Star uses the aggression and disappointment of the partner, to do all the heavy lifting.
They don’t have to do anything, except being an asshole at some strategic moments that really count.
But sadly, what happens most often, is that the Rock Star doesn’t make it out.
Oh, there’s a happy ending alright!
Nobody cheats, nobody blows anything up. Hell, even the quarreling and the bickering just stop…. ‘Cause the Rock Star has given up, Baby.
This scenario, the most common one, the most sad one, and the reason I so very strongly believe in the mission of this company Catacombe – and the scenario that definitely includes people who never got to see themselves as Rock Stars in the first place, despite their Rock Star power-
This third scenario is that the Rock Star dies.
They are talked into believing the only way to become good and accepted, and successful as a human being at large, is to be like other people, and to act normal.
This is a brainwash, a programming that can usually be blamed on the parents, who do not recognize the star power of their offspring but very well recognize the disruptive nature of their child;
And end it.
But they would have never been successful if society did not reinforce this behavior. If educators, peers, employers, and now in modern day social media; If they did not conspire together to finish off anything that could think on their own.
Rebel on their own.
And fuck, not on their own but with whomever lights a fire in them, and the feeling being mutual.
To fuck whomever they damn well please.
There is an unspoken, widespread understanding, that that?
So the Rock Stars are brainwashed and belittled, sex-shamed, slut-shamed, and their qualities go by unrecognized unless they are lucky enough to also possess other creative skills;
Then their sexually explosive, independent Rock Star qualities are seen as an add-on.
Something that gives the art, or the other usable qualities, a certain charm, but that is ultimately nothing more but a topping.
Some manage to escape with an explosive midlife crisis, but those are rare.
But if you do know someone blowing up their life in midlife, please send them this post, okay?
They might need it.
Because in general, once scenario 3, the average-nothing-special-about-you-ness of it all, has its fangs in you?
-and that’s usually under 25 years old-
Oh, you’re out.
Try coming back from that one.
Even people ending those specific relationships, that they feel are contracting them, usually do it to recreate the same sexual prison with a new person.
Not to now let their best art come through them.
Let alone that they do it to really take that sexual power and talent to the next level.
To really take their enigmatic sexual Rock Star powers – that I believe God, the Universe themselves bestowed upon them!-
To really take the job of rocking THAT, seriously and attend to it?
Develop it, nurture it, get good at it?
Understand the mathematics of it, its logic, and at the same time the magic?
Never heard anyone do that……
And I understand that… because even I saved this one for last!
This is the third and final post, in my Top Offers series. The other two posts I wrote in this series, were far easier:
The first post was for the Business Owner.
The second for the Artist.
And this third one, for the Rock Star.
printable about the 3 identities at Catacombe:
a YouTube video about these three
003 Business owner, Artist, Rock Star | 3 Identities
This is my definition of a Rock Star:
A Rock Star is a performance artist, who can raise sexual energy, knows how to hold it, and how to move it.
They can transfer this sexual energy onto others.
A Rock Star is the physical embodiment of freedom.
I have just contacted a photographer, about options to use pictures he took of Bon Jovi in their earliest years.
Because in these pre-Slippery When Wet years of the band, you can already see the star power of Jon Bon Jovi, on stage.
He was the youngest member of his own band, which he brought together only after he’d already gotten a record deal as a solo artist.
Jon Bon Jovi had been in bands and on stage, since he was a teen. And I mean 15, 16 years old. Really young.
I once encountered an interview that he regretted not having taken time off to work a summer on the boulevard. He thought he would have been good at it.
But he had been a driven teen, and had set out to make it in the music industry. He didn’t give himself time to goof around, when others did.
But when you listen and watch those oldest shows – in 1984 the year of their first show in The Netherlands opening for KISS in Zwolle, Jon was just 22 years old!
Bon Jovi – Live at IJsselhallen | Full Concert In Audio | Zwolle 1984(audio only)
– you can hear their Rock Star quality.
In 1984 they played songs from their first record, Bon Jovi-Bon Jovi (1984) but added acapella intros, adlibs (improvised lyrics), and depth and layers the original tracks on their record didn’t have.
Because none of them were beginning performers, in particular not the now 22 year old Jon Bon Jovi.
He was really showing up for the audience, and did not hide behind the music, nor the lyrics.
He did not hide behind the fact that he was in a band, either.
Jon Bon Jovi’s stage presence was as Rock Star as Rock Star can get, and as a fan you don’t hear me complain.
It’s just that now that I started this company Catacombe, and I am getting my head around these Rock Star concepts, and putting words to something that has been repressed effectively because it didn’t get words other than accusatory, belittling ones;
Words, hardly more favorable than flaws that were passable as long as you made sure the other things were really good;
It is only now that I wonder:
What would have happened if frontman Jon Bon Jovi had focused on THAT?
‘Cause they got better, Bon Jovi.
New Jersey (1988) was according to many, including me, their best album. And every music critic and cynic that was not on board yet, was seen and overcome by These Days (1995), after which Bon Jovi was a respectable band who had outgrown singing about the backseats of cars.
They got better artistically, musically.
But it all makes me wonder…. it all makes me wonder;
What if Jon Bon Jovi, had taken that charisma, that Rock Star power, that rare energy for which there are no words and that is bestowed upon only the few and the few get shamed for it;
What would have happened if THAT had gotten the thought, attention, priority, money, time, stage, and opportunity to develop?
What would happen if we stopped looking for other things to validate it, and start with the very thing the few lucky ones in 1984 must have been able to see dripping off that stage in Zwolle and beyond?
become the Rock Star you were born to be
What even the Rock Star doesn’t know about their craft.
| 2023 03 28 Top offers 3: “THE ROCK STAR” (final offer in this series)
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